In Western society, appearance is of utmost importance. Of course, you can do well in social engagements by simply having charisma and confidence, however, if you also look good, then everything becomes even easier. A guy who looks sharp starts off at an advantageous position in terms of first impressions, as supposed to someone who looks untidy. This applies to all areas of life, whether be dating, a job interview, or making a sales pitch – assuming two people have the same social skills, the better looking guy will have more success 9 times out of 10.
Yes, a large part of our looks is determined by our genetics, and we cannot control our genetics. However, we CAN control what we do with our given genetics, and how to get the most out of them. There is something very simple that you can do to immediately bump up your score in the looks department – go get a cool new haircut. I see a bunch of Asian dudes with stylish haircuts out there, some fitting their faces very well and some not so much, but I also see a lot of guys who put no effort into their hair and simply go “all natural”. The natural look/pattern of Asian hair just doesn’t look that great – our hair is coarse, straight, and stubborn, and when not groomed it just goes full porcupine in all directions until it reaches a certain length. The hair grows straight out especially on the sides of our heads (where it doesn’t have to counter as much gravity as it does at the top of the head), making our heads look more round as a result. The round head/face is subconsciously perceived as childish-looking, whereas a long/rectangular head/face is more associated with a mature and manly look.
In fact, I myself never put any effort into my hair until a couple of years ago. I was always a bit conservative about the prospects of drastically altering my “natural” Asian hair, thinking that with some fancy haircut I would look either foolish or androgynous like one of the K-Pop singers. Under some peer influence from one of my good African friends though, I eventually decided to give it a shot and do something different, and that’s when I got my first super-lite faux-hawk haircut. In hindsight, it wasn’t even a drastic change in hairstyle – I simply got the sides trimmed to a size 1 and left the top middle longer. But man, at the time after the cut, I felt like a completely new me, in a good way. I looked a lot less like a FOB and a lot more like an athletic Asian kid. I sported the faux-hawk for a while, until more recently, when I started getting undercuts with an even longer top, or doing something like a comb-over with a lock of hair curling down my forehead like some sleazy Italian model (I tell myself that anyway).
If you’ve never tried any haircuts other than a classic buzz cut or Asian bowl cut, then I highly recommend you to take the plunge and try something different, and edgy. For starters I would definitely recommend getting the sides and back of your head trimmed, and leaving the top longer. This will immediately make your head look less round and give you a more grown-up and manly look. Compliment that with some facial hair stubble if you’ve got the genes to do so at your current age.
Here is a link I found that gives some good examples of different Asian hairstyles that you can try: 9 Different Hairstyles for Asian Men
Remember, that it’s only hair, and it will grow back. Have some fun with it, maximize your genetic potential. Happy hair-hunting!